My lucky night… the astrology of how others can bring out your luck!

22308578_sI was having a lucky night – and I mean real luck. It was so lucky that I had to stop and ask, “What’s going on here?”

The trick to my luckiness…

I wasn’t alone. I was out with one of my good friends and from the minute we came into proximity with each other, the luck began. Together we created magic, alchemy, and wealth!

Synastry is the study in astrology of the connection of planets between people. Most of the time people interested in synastry want to know about their romantic partnerships. They want to know how it will work out, if they are good for one another, and how they complement one another. In reality, you can look at the synastry between just about any relationship – Parent/child, boss/employee, client/company, friend/friend, etc. The process takes each person’s birth chart and finds connection of the planets between the two which shows how you relate to one another. When there are planets transiting or making aspects to one’s chart, they also make an aspect to the other person’s chart. This detail is helpful in being able to see what will occur in those relationships throughout time.

I knew there was a chance my connection with my friend could be a lucky one. A year or so ago, noticing this connection, I tried to invoke this luck. I had theorized that if we gambled during a Venus trine transit to our lucky point, we might win big. But for this to happen, we needed to work together. We needed the combined magic of our planets. We hatched a plan to play blackjack. We watched the movie “21” and did drills at lunch time to practice counting cards. Then we practiced with her boyfriend as the dealer. I imagined us in a scene right out of American Hustle.

Our next step was to frequent the local casino. The only time I had ever played black jack was a couple of years previous in a Nepalese casino. I assumed it was all the same. We were soon disappointed when we discovered that the black jack tables were not tables – they were digital machine. In fact, there were no nearby casinos with actual black jack dealers. Our hustle was killed.

We had a second hustle – darts! We frequented a local bar to play against some of the regulars. I soon discovered that I needed at least 5 drinks to get a bulls eye. It then dawned on me that my winnings might end up back at the bar.

The day of the transit arrived…

And it passed. My friend had a date with her boyfriend – I guess it was a better use of the Venus trine to her Pluto transit.

Soon we forgot about our combined potential for magic. Time passed and, then without warning, lady luck smiled on us again.

It was Saturday night and the luck just kept coming so I started to suspect – could it be? Sure enough, Venus was squaring that magical combined point.

With friends, lovers, and other significant relationships we usually have many planetary (synastry) connections. Many of those connections are good and they tell you why you get along. Some are not so good and they will speak of the friction between you. In the chart between my friend and I, this point was good. The connection in question was a conjunction between Jupiter (in my 8th house) and Pluto (in her 1st house).

When Pluto and Jupiter come together, they expand and wield power. They speaks of wealth, playing big, expanding luck, and taking risks. Two people with these planets in conjunction, sextile, or trine create a dynamic duo. One that wields power, creates wealth, and has a positive transformative effect . If the two planets (Pluto and Jupiter) were in a square or an opposition, we might find ourselves in a power struggle. We might try to stuff faith down each other’s neck or face moral superiority over one another. Jealousy and obsession might also thrive. But with positive connections, these two energies work together.

So this is what we had: a Pluto/Jupiter conjunction. Then Venus came along and squared it. All we needed to do was hang out and the luck started to roll in!

We decided that were going to go to The Taste of The Danforth, but we’re not going to drive. Instead we took the subway. Someone getting off the subway had a day pass, good for two people for unlimited travel. Stopping us on the way to the entrance, they asked if we would like it…. A fare savings of $12. Nice! We accepted.

2014-08-15-11.25.35We arrived at the Taste of the Danforth about 35 minutes later. Getting off the subway and onto the blocked off festival streets, we realized that it wasn’t really our thing. There were food booths lined up down both sides of the streets with all kinds of food, mostly Greek. The lines were long and there was nowhere to sit down and eat. Simply put, the street curb did not appeal to us. The restaurants were the same. Lines of people at the top restaurants told us we would have a long wait but all we wanted was a drink and space from the crowds. We wanted to sit down to eat with a knife and a fork. We stood at the back of one of the lines trying to judge how long we would have to wait. Suddenly the hostess looked past everyone in line and motioned at me to ask if it was for two (we were a fair distance away). The next thing we knew, we bypassed the line. On the way, I heard someone say something about being there first and the hostess lied, saying, “Actually, they were.”

Wow! I didn’t complain, but I did feel a little guilty after looking at the menu only to realize that it wasn’t what we wanted. Even though we had been treated like royalty, we decided to leave.

Moving on, we found the perfect restaurant. I wanted a grilled calamari salad – they had it. My friend wanted a stuffed pita. They had a booth in front of the restaurant with serving what she wanted. The only problem? No outside food was allowed inside… even if it was their own outside food. That didn’t stop us. My friend (the Pluto one) begged and begged until she got her way. Once we were seated, the entire staff seemed bewitched. I flattered the waiter who asked me to guess his age. I said 39,but he was 51. He brought us two pieces of free baklava smothered in honey and whip cream. Next a waiter, one who wasn’t even waiting on us, bought me a glass of red wine.

We also had our own separate expressions of the transit. Venus square to my Jupiter expands the allure of Venus – love and attractiveness. As we walked the festival after our meal, I received several comments from men on my beauty and my sexiness.

Venus square to my friend’s Pluto in her chart brought out a different variety of attractiveness: one with a little bit of obsession and possessiveness (Pluto). I wasn’t surprised when a man approached her and said, “I’ve been watching you..” For you men reading this – bad line! Creepy bad line!

All and all, it was a lucky night. Back on the subway, again we stuck out like sore thumbs. Though it was packed, two thuggish men cleared space for us to sit down. It was our final luck of the night!

I think you know what I am doing… Yup, I’m pulling up the charts and mapping out our next brush with luck!

Maybe next time, we’ll hit the casinos!




Mercury in Cancer; Making a Personal vs Business Facebook Decision


2014-07-13-14.15.27Mercury is moving into Cancer today and I am making a “Mercury in Cancer” decision. Mercury in Cancer is about communicating with family or about family. It’s a time when you might focus more on family history, legacies, communicating about family issues. Cancer is the crab… and it’s got a protective shell!

While mercury was retrograde in Cancer/Mercury last month, we may have gone into a review about such issues. Mercury is now direct and moving back into Cancer. We are now making family related communication decisions.

I certainly am! While Mercury was retrograde, I took myself off of Facebook. The reason was a Mercury/Cancer issue. I was having a hard time maintaining privacy and boundaries – my friends and family vs. business – me time vs. business time.

This is something that happens to you when you go into business for yourself. YOU become your brand. Yes your company might have a business name, but that is not the way that social media sees it. You create company pages to support your business and they link to your personal page. As I discovered…. delete your personal page and the company pages go too! So the idea of keeping your personal life and your business life separate becomes nonexistent. Business contacts start adding you to your personal profile. You start to need to make decisions about your personal profile… post for business or post for personal. But do you want to bombard your family and friends with that stuff?
Those who have been successful in the online business world have branded themselves. And their posts on their profile are business related. The reason is that Facebook algorithm limits the amount of views on business pages unless you pay to market. Which, okay they want to make money. But this pushes people in the direction of marketing on their personal profile which of course you don’t need to pay for.

Here is another problem… You business contacts want business. So business contacts start marketing hard to your friends… on your personal page. It’s happened twice that someone has wanted to market to one of my friends. They lost all sense of etiquette, bypassed approvals or introductions and just started marketing. Another tactic to marketing to your friends is by tagging you in a picture you’re not even in so it gets on your news feed. This might be okay for some… But I don’t even market to my friends and family. My friends and family are my friends and family and I would like to keep it that way.

Here’s a third problem. I had added someone (not a friend) and they decided to comment on my location. I’m always in the dark about how to limit privacy (because of the kajillion profile setting, options and changes to). I had a feature showing your location to others turned on. So he decided to make a comment.. Um.. I don’t know you… creepy for you to check and comment on my location. Do I care if my friends and family know where I am? No… If I need saving at least they can track me down… But someone I don’t know makes me uncomfortable.

The biggest problem was boundaries around my personal and private time. My Facebook feed turned from updates with friends and family into marketing from business contacts and Facebook ad purchasers. They are the ones with the big bucks paying to advertise. It also turned into a kajillion post from groups related to business. I became a part of the groups because of courses that I have been taking to “up my business game”. If I had problems with boundaries between business time and pleasure/personal time before, Facebook was making it impossible. My business was always on and so was I.
The first step was to delete my profile (but as you know, Facebook profiles live on forever, even if you delete them). I was off for an entire month. It felt amazing. I felt peaceful, more focused and safe. But I couldn’t connect with my business networks and a big part of being in business in networking. So came the next solution; a Facebook profile for business. It’s called Ingrid Insight (Ingrid Arboine) and you can follow or friend me up there. It’s a 9am-5pm profile. (Even if it looks like it’s not.. I’ve got hootsuite… So yup, I schedule some of those posts). I’ll still be sharing who I am and what I’m up to in my entire life … But let’s face it… Not everything…. And I will be posting about my business, or just liking/sharing the stuff I post on my pages.

Make sure to like me on my new profile…. there is a button in my footer!



Bad Speller? Gifted Gabber? Blame it on Mercury…

1425729_sI can’t spell! I was an average student in high school but I decided to work really hard in my last year  in order to get into University. I wouldn’t say that school was difficult for me -I was smart, but my spelling and grammar were my downfall. My father tried to correct this in my youth by assigning extra homework from an English textbook he called English First Aid; not even first aid could help. I coasted through high school and university with average marks but it wasn’t until my third year of university that I really felt the sting of my difficulties: I handed in what I thought was an awesome paper – I mean, I thought it was a stroke of brilliance! When the marked paper came back, it had a big -D written across it accompanied by the words “you need to go back to grade 7 – atrocious spelling and grammar.” Really? I thought. Did he even read my paper? THAT was an awesome paper.

Then I got my very first “real” job in one of Canada’s top three law firms. In law firms, spelling and grammar are everything. But I was hired as the human resources assistant so it didn’t matter. Or so I thought! The very first all-staff email I sent out had a spelling mistake – and almost every single Legal Assistant, 53 or so of them, sent me an email to let me know. They cared about their reputation. They didn’t like costly mistakes. And a spelling or grammatical mistake could do it. I quickly learned to check and double check everything I sent out to the company. After all, they were paying me.

During those days I had trained myself to write so perfectly that  after I left and went to work for the government, I ended up thoroughly impressing my new General Manager. General Managers can be pretty intimidating, so when he called me into his office to speak to me about the briefing note I wrote, I was nervous.

“Did you write this?” he asked, holding up the paper. He was a serious ass dude and  I contemplated denying it for a half second.

“Yes I did,” I said. My hands trembled slightly as he opened his mouth again.

“There are no mistakes… very well done!” Then he invited me to play with his top collection on his desk – I was in!

The next several years, I will call ‘the assistant years’ as I had assistance. I worked with people whose job was to make my work look good so I got lazy – I didn’t have to think about it. It was taken care of and, more importantly, no longer a part of my job description. And, you guessed it, my spelling and grammar quickly took a downturn.

But what makes me so bad at spelling and grammar?

In astrology, communication is represented by Mercury. Mercury rules education, learning, speaking, writing, and singing. Great writers or communicator usually have Mercury elevated in their chart though a nice aspect to Jupiter or Venus might help, too. Mercury in aspect to Jupiter can give the ‘gift of the gab’ and the license to say almost anything. Oprah has Mercury in a trine to Jupiter and Neptune. She is the queen of talks show and Neptune ensures that her topics have a spiritual nature or spiritual agenda.

Challenges to Mercury in the birth chart can show up as learning differences or difficulties, an interrupted education, stuttering, or other communication difficulties. If these show up in your life, you likely have Mercury in aspect to Saturn or Chiron.

Though they may experience pain in association with communication or education, someone who has Mercury in aspect to Chiron may have the potential to heal. Khalil Gibran was not formally educated in his youth, but had Mercury in aspect to Saturn, Pluto, Uranus, and Chiron. His book The Prophet is considered by many to be a spiritual and healing inspiration.

It could also be that one of these two is situated in the third house (which is ruled by Mercury) which reflects my story: I have Saturn in the third. It doesn’t mean that you aren’t intelligent – I’m pretty smart if I do say so myself! Mercury says nothing about your level of intelligence. It only speaks of challenges. And where there are challenges, there are lessons. Saturn in my third house also promised problems with my education which definitely happened. I was studying for a Master’s of Science and life events ran interference. Luckily I had enough credits to be awarded me a graduate diploma, which is post graduate education in its own right, though not what I had intended. Pluto was squaring my Mercury at the time!

Just because there are challenges does not mean that you cannot overcome. I did briefly overcome my spelling and grammar issues. Erin Brockovich has Mercury square Mars and opposite Saturn. Despite hardship, challenge, and struggle, she was able to win a big insurance claim without a law degree – now she holds three honorary degrees!

What is your experience with your Mercury? Do you feel gifted or a challenged? Check your birth chart to see what’s going on with your Mercury. Sign up for the newsletter and you’ll get a free one.